A shoulder to lean on.

When life throws you things over and over and over and over and you don't think you can go on, what happens? Many people have that person who they can lean on and talk to. Granted lots of people hold closer to God in those times but some people need a shoulder to "lean" on.

We need someone to tell us we aren't going insane when we feel like our whole world is crumbling. Some people don't have that support. Some people have people who they think they can trust and they totally back stab them. There are some people who want support and don't have it.

What happens to those people who are desperately seeking a shoulder, support, someone to say its gonna be okay? They can go insane or end up taking their life. I know that we don't wanna think about those things but look at this.

In Kidz Krib we have been learning about friendship and how important it is. God made us for friendship and connection with other people. Friendship is taking the good with the bad and loving someone unconditionally. Think about if your best friend, the person who you told everything, disappeared. How devastated would you be?

I can see how it devastates the kids when someone tells them they aren't friends. It's equally as important to adults. Humans were made for connection and relationship. We need encouragement, assurance, a listener, support to survive. It's very hard to find that person.

Try to find people you can trust to be there through all things, not just the bad. But when things are going well for you as we'll. Friendship is like experimental cooking. Some are amazing, some fail, some are only good for a short season. Then sometimes you find that recipe that is perfect and you couldn't live without it!!!!!!!

Overwhelmed but stable

It's no surprise to Justin or myself that everything is a HUGE cluster of mess with purchasing our home. God seems to do these things so we remember who is in control. Let me give you a hint, it's never us.

When Justin and I started dating it was evident by week 2-3 that we were gonna end up getting married. There was no dramatic proposal, we just started planning the wedding. Despite everyone telling us not to, we had spiritual confirmation. We set up marriage counseling with the church and began planning.

There was an issue, Justin was still legally married. He hadn't set up papers for divorce. That was also something we had to do. The deadline was arriving so quickly that we were actually thinking that we would have to move the wedding. We decided that if all else failed we would explain to everyone what had happened and have a huge party.

Justin and I would go for walks at night and I would cry. It was weeks away from our wedding day and we might not be able to even get married. Justin assured me that God knew what he was doing. He's always had more faith than I. 2-3 weeks before we were to say I do the paperwork went through and we were able to get married.

We are now 2 days past our original closing date for the house and looking at closing, hopefully, by the second week of may. I was hoping God would have blessed Justin with a different position at work so he would be straight day light, but he didn't.

After many stressful experiences, and Justin remaining calm I've learned that it is true that God will never give you more ban you can handle. We were blessed with a washer and dryer, paint, lawn mower, weed eater, and countless other things that were given to us. Justin is getting a house warmer present that he has always wanted and I got one too.

God will never put a situation in front of you that you can't handle, may that be a child who is strong willed, a job that is horrible, a friendship gone wrong, He is in control. God have humans free will however he knew what he was doing. We have to learn to trust Him and His judgement. He can see a bigger picture than we can.

Just trust Him!!!

Marriage, love, commitment.

When you start dating someone and you guys fall head over heals giggly happily in love it's the best feeling ever. Then time passes and there could be an engagement and eventually a marriage. After 3 years of marriage let me be honest. It's hard!

I'm no marriage guru or claim to know everything but I've learned a few things. The longer you are married the more experience and knowledge you have. But let me throw a few things on the table for you.

When you are 'dating' and you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, sometimes it's great practice for divorce. It's just easier to break up because the opposite person doesn't understand and you get frustrated. Bye bye. You work trough things in a marriage. There are days Justin and I are down each others throats!! But we are still married and take our vowels seriously. Ephesians 4:26 says that we aren't supposed to let the sun go down on our anger.

Marriage isn't about you. It's about both of you. You don't get to do what you want when you want anymore. You have to communicate. It's not something that happens overnight. We are just now starting to see how to communicate a little bit. I am not my husband and he is not me. We are different and we have to learn how to talk to each other differently so we understand each other. Saying I don't understand isn't a bad statement. You both probably have different backgrounds. Different upbringings. Etc.

I'm not here downing divorce because my husband has been divorced. My mom has also. I know it breaks Gods heart however I know how much God forgives and loves us. Marriage is difficult. It's unselfish, compromising, hardwork, and glorious. Make sure you really understand what you are walking into.

Marriage is a daily decision to love the other person. Some days are easier than others!!!!!! Every marriage is different from the next. The closer the both of you are to God the closer the two of you are.

Facing Your Biggest Fear

Anyone who knows me knows how much I LOVE kids!!!! Many are surprised I don't have any yet. Recently I have been making jokes about the reasons why I don't have kids.

-I love sleep. Naps aren't an option anymore and boy do I love them!!!!
-You are NEVER alone again. And I'm a very Independant person.
-Vomit and Deborah do NOT go in the same sentence, period.
-Infant poop has got to be the most terrible thing God ever placed on this earth!

The list grows and giggles begin! However, only a group of 3 people know why I haven't taken the plunge into children. So here's the secret, infants terrify me. When I was handed Lyla for the first time at only a few days old, I freaked out. There is no legit reason for my terror and yes it seems silly.

This thrill seeking, adrenaline junky, pyro, snake playing gal who wants to skydive and bungee jump is terrified by a small infant. I'm unaware if its the thought of the responsibility or just knowing how small they are.

Point being this, today I was to be at work at 530 to get some kids. One being an infant. I didn't think I could do it and was freaked out when God showed me something. First of all Gods word tells us that he did not give us the spirit of fear. (2 Timothy 1:7) of course for some people that won't automatically take the fear away for some situations.

Not only do I know that God is with me and wouldn't give me more than I could handle, but someone else showed faith in me that I was capable to do it! In life we have to have those around us building us up, reminding us if what we are capable of doing.

God has great things planned for us! Bigger things than we can even imagine. We cannot allow fear to control our drive for moving forward in life. When the world says no way, we say 'Yahweh'. Know that no matter the mountain you face, may it be a change in job, marriage, moving, school, or even changing a diaper, God is with you. You are worthy of being able to overcoming the obstacles that stand in your way of fulfilling your destiny!!!!!